Open relationship and Men on Pause (menopause)

I hear women in their forties saying they have no libido. Others say that their libido is through the roof.
Mine goes up and down. Not daily, more like a half-year cycle righ now.

Here is the interesting part.

Open relationship usually works well for me if we both have extramarital relationships.

But right now, I have other things on my mind rather than other intimate relationships.

I am perimenopausal and grumpy as a rhino on a bad day.

And there is part of me that doesn’t want to share my partner. I want him home, by my side, to endure my grumpy self with me. I want to lock him in a cage at home, and it’s not even a golden cage. It's more like a rusty, poky cage. But cages don’t tend to be full of libido and laughter. I’m not saying that relationship is all about libido, but it is helpful. It's more fun than grumpy rhinos, too.

If I give a face to this part of me, inside, she looks like an old woman with dirty, long fingernails and a raspy voice.

Baba Yaga type of a woman.

I did a workshop on Baba Yaga last year, and she is not an easy archetype to work with. She makes one to dig deep and then dig in some more. The price is always high, but then again, she knows the forest of my psyche.
Baba Yaga is also known not to be kind to humans, especially men. She likes to make fences of their bones.
Menopause is a little bit like that.

I put men on pause because I like them. I do not wish to break them, at least, on a good day. And when the bad day comes, my husband and my marriage is sometimes safer in another woman's care. It’s funny how it works.